Wet dreams do not reduce sperm count. She asked, Is that possible? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: How else would the child resemble his father or mother? Now I am not sure what to do due to the Hadith that a Junub person cannot recite the Quran. I just want to ask of what if a female cant control the feelings she receives and does it also break her wudhu and fast? The last thing to note is that in the case when a person is praying in congregation behind the Imam, then the sutrah of the Imam is sufficient for everyone praying behind him and they all dont have to put a sutrah in front of them and if some one passes in front of them then they should not stop him and he does not cut off their prayer, because they are praying behind the Imam and the sutrah of the Imam is considered a sutrah for those praying behind him, so it is enough for the Imam to pray towards a sutrah only, and if there is a need then people can pass in front of those praying behind the Imam in congregation without cutting off their prayer. But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience. Sometimes some sisters get strong rhythmic contractions but they wake up and do not touch that part. The question of womens presence cutting off prayer is one issue that Sayyida Aisha (ra) disputed, and her refutation of it is noted in Sahih Bukhari: The things which annul the prayers were mentioned before me. i am 19, it happens many times with me that even when i am awake i dream as if a guy is kissing me and hugging me with love. The negative self-talk will lead to feeling catastrophic and the cycle gets worse and worse so take control of your thoughts by making positive statements. Do you actually have a sex dream that ends in an O and you wake up wet, or is more you wake up in morning with Jizz in your pants with no memory. i am a teen ager!! Islamic law necessitates a ghusl following such an event and if a wet dream occurs while fasting it does not break the fast. We do not know of any difference of opinion concerning that either. She explained to her mother that it felt good. A lot of men and women are in a dilemma on this issue,especially those that are in situations beyond their control. I hope you continue to write on matters of relevance to Muslims, especially the ladies. In this hadth, the Prophet (peace be upon him) made it clear that ghusl is only obligatory upon seeing the liquid. Set it and collect blessings from Allah (swt) for the khayr you're supporting without thinking about it. Now come scenarios that are mixed with doubts, could you kindly answer them too, please? The same goes for all other acts of worship like prayer, wudu the intention should not be said or pronounced out loud, and a person should have the intention in their heart only, and it should not be uttered with the tongue because this is not from the sunnah. If you're new to lucid dreaming, start with your hands, Robert Waggoner, president of the International Association for the Study of Dreams, and author of Lucid Dreaming - Gateway to the Inner . Sister, I was referring to this hadith: Can you kindly elaborate this ahadeth that if a woman, donkey and black dog passes in front of you your prayers are anulled? Please do not traumatize children about their natural bodily functions. So maybe it might raise the status of this Hadith to Hasan li Ghayrihi? 3. Dreams of a sexual nature do not break the fast regardless of any discharge or not. Boys and girls, Muslim and non-Muslim alike. Brothers, could you give me some suggestion on preventing wet dreams. Novels/magazines/internet anything that triggers emotional cues All one can do is try. (I know this isnt exactly what you said, I thought it was just worth mentioning). Whatever the details its to do with us women! While manual masturbation or engaging in sexual activity may decrease the need for someone to release their bodily fluids, individuals may still experience nocturnal emissions while sleeping. Your email address will not be published. I dont even want to tell my own mother about it or ask if its normal. Besides, a Muslim mother can/should always point out the Islamic recognition of the normality of our body functions and the Shariah rulings about it. He began searching far and wide for answers to the fundamental questions of life and was disappointed at the answers he found. like a dream in a dream. Some time ago, I gave a series of lectures on Taharah (cleanliness) to the sisters in my community. How can you agree with someones opinion over RasoolAllaah sallallhu alayhee wsalam? These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. Hence why wrote this in my last post: You said: So how would I know if the wetness is from the dream or if its my normal discharge? Does a woman need to do ghusl if there clearly was no orgasm, but wetness is seen due to sexual thoughts? Right now there is no extra discharge even. This cannot be understood from our fatwa. It made me reflect on the thousands of children, teenagers to be specific, I have taught over the years. Uncertainty about purity and wet dream. Al-Liqa al-Shahri (37/25) Would explaining wet dreams to a girl who may never experience them confuse her? Sis is it necessary to feel the sensation of orgasm as u discussed above if someone see every day and dont feel anything or dont remember the sensation of orgasm she should also do ghusl plx answer me!! Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 9, Number 490: I totally agree. I pray this finds you in the best of states. The Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alihi wasalam, said: The Pen has been lifted from three: from the one who is sleeping until he wakes up, from the child until he reaches the age of puberty, and from one who is insane until he comes to his senses. (Tirmidhi). I advise all of the brothers and sisters reading this, if you have a question, go to islamqaDOTcom and type in keywords of your question, 9 times out of 10, you will find your answer inshaAllaah. Carlos, before modern science and technology peoples hygiene varied widely, as youre probably aware. He said: Women are the full sisters of men. [Sunan Ab Dwd and Sunan al-Tirmidh]. My main question is something im experiencing lately. satisfied. I am a female, I ask these questions below to in shaa Allah make my ibadaat easy and avoid needless bathing, my non-Muslim family can say that I only spend time in toilet for ghusl and wudu as urinating takes a lot of time for me and preparation for salah therefore too. Ive experienced an orgasm in my sleep as its explained here but I had no wetness when I fully woke up and checked. I feel terrible knowing the fact that one has to perform ghusl if one sees a wet dream. Those scholars, who support the opinion that wet dreams are an indication of a girl reaching the age of puberty, base their opinion on the signs of male puberty and do not make any distinction between the two genders; they include menstruation as an additional sign for females. 1. If a woman has a wet dream of herself masturbating and feels aroused(vaginal throbbing) and sees discharge but cannot tell if this discharge is from the dream or the daily discharge women usually have. However, the other opinion is inferred from a number of ahadith that state that the rulings are to be established at time of menstruation, like the hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alihi wasalam: Allah does not accept the prayer of a menstruating woman [i.e who has gotten her menstruation] unless she wears a veil [khimar]. assalamualaykum. So when the need rises, one must ask in order to educate themselves regarding these issues which are of utmost importance. While this post is for females, I will try to answer your question here. Please note I am not qualified Islamically or medically and below is based on my own reading growing up. If you have a daughter, educate her about menstruationaround 8ish ESPECIALLY if she is going to a public school or even to an islamic school. window.__mirage2 = {petok:"JW.xeV8p4o0gibLpop4tX9.JFQiLOiIWBdVZWHhPENw-1800-0"}; If its too embarrassing over the phone, request the sheikh to ring you after the show and they do. And also this only happens rarely and totally uncontrollably. The person praying should also try and stop anyone who passes in front of him directly between him and his sutrah, because the Prophet peace be upon him also said: If one of you prays facing towards something that is screening him from the people, and someone wants to pass in front of him, let him push him in the chest, and if he insists then let him fight him, for he is a devil. narrated by al-Bukhaari (509) and Muslim (505). There is also a strong sensation to touch or rub the private area or to take something inside the vaginal area specifically. I just decided to change my panties wash myself there and performed wudu and went to pray. I with Sr Sadaf on this hopefully search engines will bring up your article soon InshaAllah, whenever a Muslimah is in need of information on this subject. When religious laws conflict with reality, which should bend? Sorry the link wasnt working here it is again What Should I Do after Seeing a Wet Dream? - SeekersGuidance There is no real way to prevent having wet dreams. Umm Reem JazakAllah for guiding us all. 3. Keep in mind that I dont have my own family or kids yet, so what I said is only based on my observations, so I might be completely wrong, and Allah knows best. There was a time when I was unmarried, in college(with fitna EVERYWHERE especially during summer sessions), and abstaining from masturbationthese 3 factors increased the frequency of my wet dreams to at times 3 times a night | MuslimMatters.org, Parenting Series | Part VIII: Sexual Activities Beyond the Norm What Should We Teach Our Teens | The Sex In Islam. Its a part of life and if girls dont learn about all this, then they will end up becoming more and more distant and reserved from their parents. When I wake up from sleep straight after having a wet dream, I am certain that nothing came out of me, whether maniy or madhiy, but because of a great deal of waswaas [whispers from the Shaytaan; persistent intrusive thoughts], I examine the urethral sphincter, as if I can find something small inside it, and I squeeze the penis but nothing comes out, and I think it most likely that this is not maniy. Dont you think men are getting excited over this? There is such dire need for issues like these to be addressed. 1.If a person constantly has sexual thoughts which she tries to avoid all the time but see no discharge at all will that break her wudhu? JazakAllah khair. I dont want to go to doctors for them to ask me when was the last time i was intimate then when they realise what it is. If sisters have any further questions, please feel free to post them here. Click here to support MuslimMatters with a monthly donation of $2 per month. I read your explanation of orgasm and the part where it says when a person wakes up before having an orgasm. She has hosted several Islamic lectures and weekly halaqas in different communities all over U.S and overseas, also hosted special workshops regarding parenting, Islamic sex-ed, female sexuality, and marital intimacy. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): and [Allah] has not placed upon you in the religion any difficulty. As is reported on the authority of Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) who said that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) when performing ghusl from janaba used to wash his hands, then wash his private parts with his left hand. Assalamu Alaikum, How do you explain orgasm to your non married daughter? They always ask lots of needless questions. In fact, Ibn Hazm, Ash-Shawkani and some of the Hanbalis believed it to be permissable. We perceive that you are affected with some sort of Waswaas (devilish whisperings/obsessive doubts), so we advise you to ignore them and not pay any attention to them. And to understand why someone would like to reduce the frequency, the thought should not be purely spiritual (and we know that this is not something a person is NOT held accountable for). Umm Salamah was so shy, even with such a brief question, that she covered her face when asking the messenger of Allaah sallallahu alayhee wsalam, who was her husband! Does a woman have to do ghusl if she has a wet dream? The Prophet said: Yes, if she sees water (a discharge). Umm Salamah covered her face and said, O Messenger of Allah, can a woman have an erotic dream? He said, Yes, may your hands be rubbed with dust. If theres no evidence of discharge (wet will be obvious), its not a wet dream. Whenever I was in need of something, I would slip away for I disliked to face him.'. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: Yes, if she sees water (discharge of fluid).. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. Yes that is true, the Prophet peace be upon him prayed towards the bed in which Aisha may Allah be pleased with her was lying in under the blanket, so this is allowed and it does not cut off the prayer of the man, because it is different than passing in front of the one who is praying, and what cuts off the prayer is the woman actually passing in front of the one praying. MEN: But up until now I have never made full/complete wudu and then bathe and that is where I was confused. And i wake up little later worried if that breaks my wudu or ghusl because i cant really control what i am thinking at night def. yes, jazakAllah khair for clarifying thissome of the translations cause confusion when they translate a menstruating woman which actually means a woman who has gotten her menstruation i.e. and should I make gushul, if you didnt have an orgasm, you dont need to make ghusal. Is this true? Shes moving. So should i do ghusl anywayz in cases like these although in my heart i am more sure that it is frm sprinkling.JAzakAllahu kahirnWalaikum aslam wr wb. :o) And yes, we can get obsessive at times, and that is also not good. I have no idea on how to contact you, so I am posting this comment hoping that you can help me. when waking up and finding discharge: I know the article says if there isnt certainty, no ghusl is necessary but can the discharge be from sexual excitement even if we cant remember the dream? If you had a dream in which what was seen was mainly intercourse and no wetness is found upon waking up you are not in a state of major ritual impurity (janaba) and you dont need to perform a ritual bath. Allaah knows best why that happened. Just understand, that the whole notion of reducing the frequency is in more ways than believed, connected to numerous factors personal, social, environmental including the religious makeup of a person. What if u get wet after seeing any drama or m0vie scene? http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/22750/ejaculation%20thoughts, Female Wet Dreams: Islamic Perspectives & Regulations The Journey to Marriage, Should Parents Tell Their Children About Changing Hormones? And you, Barakallahu Feekum, have shown other of its Shawahid. assalamualaikum, I do intend to discuss that in details in a future post inshaAllahhowever that is not the goal of this particular post. Im not sure I tried rubbing my index finger and thumb together to feel its texture and it felt somehow on my finger. And if you dont think this had any effect on men who read this, you dont understand a mans desire. 1: Yes , masturbation is haraam [uncertain for married couples though]. I would say start by educating them about their body parts, and how certain parts of the body are very private and needs to be well guarded and taken care of because we are Muslims and Allah has asked us to do so (and you can read some of the surahs WITH meanings to them etc. This answer was indexed from Qibla.com, which used to have a repository of Islamic Q&A answered by various scholars. My husband is not living with me for short period of time so of course i havent been intimate. Maybe you can benefit form the following advice form sister Haleh. Is there any islamic advice on this. However, if you wake up from sleep and see wetness, then if you are sure that it is Maniyy (ejaculation), you have to perform Ghusl, otherwise you do not have to do so. I have never had a wet dream but this has happened to me alot, and i dont know if it counts as masturbation. and prayed and didnt know. It is a strong sexual sensation that sends waves of pleasure from abdominal area to vaginal area, which makes a woman arch her back a bit and perhaps want to thrust her pelvis spasmodically. Sister umm reem you have said that ghusl becomes obligatory for women if they have an orgasm but according to the hadith of Prophet ghusl becomes obligatory on women if they have discharge during an orgasm and not due to orgasm without discharge.Please reply. Assalamu alaikum I tried smelling it too but I dont think I detect any smell from it has Im not even what kind of smell Im searching for. I climaxed during a dream, but see no discharges on my underwear and feel no wetness when I touch my private parts, do I have to bath? 2. In the narration of Al-Bukhari it states that he (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) then turned aside and washed his legs. Foremost I wanted to instil in them, empathy and compassion. Puberty is a continuum and can begin around age 9-10, starting with development of breasts, pubic and underarm hair, a growth spurt, and then menses. then go on to the Islamic perspective and rulings, etc. May Allah reward you, Umm Reem, for clarifying this for the Muslim female population especially the reverts, who have no biological Muslim mothers/sisters to guide them in their immediate family. Considering the world we live in, it is probably already on their minds and they might have already heard some stuff from their friends or saw something on television (aka the devil in a box). Brother, I know this was posted like nearly ten years ago and I most likely wont get a reply but I cant find the answer to my question elsewhere, so.. Qn 1; does rape, sexual abuse, ambiguous consent, just kissing in your dreams count as a wet dream? :). Sister Umm Reem, I will appreciate a response looking at this issue of masturbation from all angles, including the Islamic principle of choosing the lower of 2 evils. some hours it stops and some hours it happens again. reached the age of puberty, wAllahu taala alam. and Allah knows best. It does not store any personal data. An example of when a person says their intention out loud is when he stands for prayer but before he starts praying and before the first takbeer, he says I intend to pray maghrib, 3 rakahs, fardh for Allah, in congregation, etc.. I am having an issue causing me a lot of anxiety for the past couple of months. A humane compassion for their fellowman through my first love, literature. I experience this confusion regarding dreams only, as a result of your fatwa which says that everything that comes after a wet dream is usually maniy. I never really had sexual thoughts before but once I read this I thought to myself that I should refrain from thinking these things. like she didnt know it was bad to touch self and stuff. After an orgasm, the wetness is called Mani.. I realized I saw my ex-husband, then someone else, I started worry if I saw some sexual relation etc, I was kind of sure I didnt see anything like that and didnt experience climax in the dream, but as there were parts of a dream that I didnt remember anymore, I was starting having doubts and trying to remember all. and is their treatment the same as the one for wet dreams? 5. It is better to educate her once the signs of puberty start appearing in her. I am confused since being aroused and having an orgasm are 2 different things. Is that halal? Most of my teen students learned about these issues from their classmates during 3rd and 4th grade. Im sorry for being so explicit, but this is just porn covered with an Islamic label. He said: Women are the full sisters of men. [Sunan Ab Dwd and Sunan al-Tirmidh]. Until we talk about it, we will not be able to fix them. Last night I had a wet dream whilst I was on my menstraul cycle, I knew I had it because of the feeling. In terms of sexual stimulation, veins in a womans genital tissues begin to dilate and fill with blood, gradually making the whole area feel full (called vasocongestion). Also, she says she would slip away-how is that not passing? I washed myself and went to work thinking of all this again (and probably had more wetness appearing therefore) and when I came to work after few hours in toilet I felt that wetness again. Other uncategorized cookies are those that are being analyzed and have not been classified into a category as yet. This is a step that a mother has to initiate and be the first to break the ice. My suggestion is to explain exactly what happens during a wet dream, next give her the biological/hormonal cause, and then explain to her the Islamic ruling about it. Recently, its been happening alot, it never used to happen before and Im 19 so it probably would have happened before if it was to do with puberty but it never did. I dont understand it and wanted to know if its normal? Fasting and praying is better. Should I perform Ghusl every morning or just perform ablution when I see wetness and am not sure whether it is a wet dream or not? Sister Reem, i sometimes have an orgasm during sleep but when i wake up there is no wetness in my undergarments, do i still have to perform ghusl?Since in the Hadith Prophet Mohammad(pbuh)said if you see the discharge then perform ghusl ,if you dont see then there is no ghusl. I have followed your points Umm Reem at night i make a dua before going to bed and while waiting for sleep i read tasbeeh of AstagfurAllah still yesterday night i saw a dream of a man there was no such thing in but as the dream continued and i feel a bit of pushing in my vaginal area i opened my eyes. Why? I googled it and got sooo much useful information but since I am a Muslim I cannot rely on western information. I told my husband and he thinks it may be an infection. Can someone elaborate on ghusl more? im hoping it will stop soon. . there are a number of questions related to orgasm from sexual thoughts while awake or ejaculation while awake from sexual thoughts I wish there were someone to help me. May Allah grant us and you well-being. We are even taught how to use the bathroom properly. These include shellfish, excessive spice, etc. 3. what is a girl touched herself didnt know it was masterbatiion until recently. So the following should not be said in the beginning of prayer? Do ghusl if:-You remember having a wet dream WITH orgasm (even if you dont SEE extra wetness). If it was colourless wetness then just wash the area and make wudhu. or i can pray without having to do ghusl? Im assuming you didnt read my full post. What to Do after a Wet Dream? - SeekersGuidance She was homeschooled and i strictly monitored her friends, however, some of them knew too much so i talked to her before someone else did, Also, I am a firm believer, that if children ask then a parent must answer their questionsdepending on their age (and they usually ask when they are small)no need to give too much information but at the same time we must not give them incorrect information in the name of shyness, i hope it helpsif not then maybe you can ask specifically what you have in mind and inshaAllah I will try to answer that. I saw the Prophet praying while I used to lie in my bed between him and the Qibla. The bottom line is that if one is sure that what one sees is not sperm then one does not have to do anything provided that no wet dream was seen. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. ..its been few days that Ive noticed Im getting wet dreamsIm also a med student but am totally confused bout what shariah have for itshould weve to do ghusl? For those with a passionate nature, like myself, this is a difficult message to absorb. Can we summarise as follows therefore: Is giving a discount based on sales target permissible in a business? Salaam, please take a look at the following link you will find the hadith that you are looking for and its authenticity: http://hadithcheck.blogspot.com/2010/11/sahih-water-of-man-vs-water-of-woman.html. 4. I felt my whole body shudder and tense as I moaned and orgasmed right there, sitting up in my bed. All perfect praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. He is an active instructor at SeekersGuidance and answers questions through the SeekersGuidance Answers Service. Sister Hena, jazakullah khair for your response. Then water should be poured on his head, covering the entire body with water. jazakAllaahu khairan. If one sees a dream in which one has sexual intercourse but does not notice any semen or wetness when one wakes up, ghusl is not necessary. So there is a difference, and what cuts off the prayer is passing in front of the one praying only. 3. It was nice and a very open talk since the one giving the lecture was a female herself. then our bedsheet become dirty or not ? These cookies help provide information on metrics the number of visitors, bounce rate, traffic source, etc. . Something similar to that was narrated from Umar and Uthmaan, and that was stated by Ibn Abbaas, Ataa, Saeed ibn Jubayr, ash-Shabi, an-Nakhai, al-Hasan, Mujaahid, Qataadah, Maalik, ash-Shaafai, and Ishaaq, because what appears to be the case is that it was emitted during a wet dream, and he forgot.